The Secret to a Memorable Wedding Speech
Giving a wedding speech can feel a bit like walking a tightrope–there’s pressure to be funny but heartfelt, personal but still relatable, and sincere without sounding like you rehearsed it a hundred times. Whether you're the best man, maid of honour, proud parent, or lifelong friend, you’ve been given the honour of speaking at one of life’s most meaningful moments. No pressure, right? The good news? You don’t need to be a stand-up comedian or a natural-born storyteller to pull it off. With a little heart, a simple structure, and some thoughtful preparation, your words can make a lasting impression. At Winona Vine Estates, tucked into the heart of Stoney Creek, we’ve seen it all–from emotional tributes to unexpected one-liners. The ones guests remember most? They’re the ones that feel genuine. In this month’s blog, we’re sharing practical tips and real examples to help you deliver a wedding speech that hits all the right notes.
Why Your Wedding Speech Matters
Let’s put things in perspective: a wedding reception isn’t just about the food or the playlist—it’s about celebrating love, connection, and all the people who matter most to the couple. Your speech? It’s one of those small but powerful moments that helps bring that celebration to life. Whether it gets a few laughs, tugs at the heartstrings, or does a bit of both, your words give guests a glimpse into the couple’s story—and set the tone for the kind of night people will remember. So take a breath. You don’t have to be perfect—just real.
Understanding Your Role
Before you start writing your first draft, think about the role you’re stepping into.
- Best man or maid of honour? You’re probably the go-to for laughs, a few great stories, and some heartfelt moments.
- Parent or close family member? This is your chance to share memories, a little wisdom, and maybe even a few happy tears.
- Long-time friend? You get to show everyone why this couple is so perfect together–through your eyes.
Each role brings something different to the table. The trick is to lean into your relationship with the couple and speak in a way that feels true to you. If you’re not naturally funny, don’t force the jokes. If you’re feeling sentimental, let that come through. The best speeches sound like you–just with a little more heart.
Your Speech Blueprint: Simple Structure, Big Impact
The best wedding toasts follow a simple structure –they tell a story, bring out a few smiles (or even happy tears), and leave the room feeling a little more connected. At Winona Vine Estates, located in Stoney Creek, we’ve seen how a thoughtful, well-paced speech can turn a great wedding reception into an unforgettable one. If you’re not sure where to start, here’s a format that always works:
Start with a Warm Welcome
Kick things off by welcoming the guests and thanking everyone for being part of such a special day. Acknowledge the couple, and let them know how honoured you are to say a few words–it’s a big moment, and it’s okay to say that out loud.
Share How You Know the Couple
Let people in on your connection. Are you the sibling who grew up with them? The college roommate who saw it all unfold? The lifelong friend who’s always been in their corner? Give everyone a sense of why you’re standing up there–and what the couple means to you.
Tell a Story (or Two)
Pick one or two stories that show us something real—something funny, moving, or memorable. The goal isn’t to list every moment you’ve shared, but to paint a quick picture of who they are and why they work so well together.
Wrap up With a Heartfelt Wish
Close things out with a few words of encouragement or hope for their future. It doesn’t have to be profound—just speak from the heart.
And Finally, Raise Your Glass
End with a simple, sincere toast to the couple. It’s the moment everyone’s waiting for—and the one that kicks off the celebration.
Wedding Toast Dos and Don’ts
Do:
- Practice out loud. You’ll catch awkward phrasing, find your natural pacing, and feel way more confident when the moment comes.
- Keep it person–but not cringey. Think sweet and sincere over inside jokes or anything that might make the couple blush (for the wrong reasons).
- Slow down. Nerves can make you rush. Pause. Breathe. Let your words land.
- Use cue cards, not your phone. It’s way easier to connect with people when you’re not scrolling or squinting.
- Make eye contact. A few glances toward the couple and the guests go a long way in making your speech feel heartfelt and genuine.
Don’t:
- Wing it. Even the most confident speakers plan what they’re going to say. A few notes can make a big difference.
- Drink too much before your speech. One glass for the nerves? Totally fine. Three tequila shots? Maybe wait ‘til after you’ve toasted.
- Try to be someone you’re not. If humour isn’t your thing, don’t force it. A sincere message will always land better than a shaky punchline.
- Roast the couple. This isn’t the time for sarcasm or edgy jokes–save that for the bachelor or bachelorette party.
- Mention exes. Even as a joke. Just...no.
- Share wild party stories. What happened in Vegas should stay out of your speech.
- List every person you’ve ever met. Leave the long thank-you list to the couple.
- Overshare. Personal touches are great–TMI is not.
Bottom line? Don’t focus on impressing the crowd. Focus on honouring the couple. That’s what makes a wedding toast worth remembering.
Nerves are Normal (Here’s How to Tame Them)
Even if you’ve given presentations at work or feel confident chatting in front of others, delivering a wedding speech can still stir up nerves. That’s totally normal! Try these quick calming techniques:
- Practice in front of a mirror or friend to get used to hearing yourself.
- Take deep breaths before you begin.
- Focus on the couple, not yourself. This is about them, not your performance.
- Pause when needed. Silence feels longer to you than it does to the audience.
Real Wedding Speech Inspiration
Need a little inspiration for your wedding toast at Winona Vine Estates? These real-world examples show how humour, sincerity, and storytelling come together to create unforgettable moments at the wedding reception.
Maid of Honour Wedding Speech Example
“Hi, I’m Maya, the bride’s older sister. With Lucy being three years younger, we fell right into our respective roles as sister-rivals growing up. We constantly fought over stolen clothes, monopolizing the phone back when landlines were a thing, and what boy band to blare from the car speakers. I’m still Team Backstreet Boys while Lucy is forever indebted to NSYNC. Looking back on those memories, I should have stepped up and granted Lucy permission to wear my favourite sweater for picture day, to hand her the phone once in a while, and to let her play, ‘Bye Bye Bye.’ Even I can admit that’s a good one. But despite Lucy being the younger sister, she has always been more patient, more accommodating, and more thoughtful than me. And that’s because when it comes to the people she loves, she’s all in. She’s the one to prioritize their desires. She’s the one to compromise first. And, she’s the one to support their dreams as if they were her own. This is why it makes me so happy to know that Lucy has found a home in David. He matches her in compassion, thoughtfulness, and warmth. And I know he’ll spend his life prioritizing her desires, being ready to compromise, and supporting her dreams as his own. Cheers to Lucy and David! May you always feel loved because you always put each other first.”
Source: Brides
What Makes it Memorable:
- Nostalgic sibling humour
- A warm, emotional shift to reflect the bride’s character
Best Man Wedding Speech Example
“I met Robert eight years ago when I became his neighbour. His reputation preceded him as I had heard about the ‘Block Party King’ before my closing papers were inked. Rob has never been the guy to wear fancy clothes. In fact, I’m still in shock seeing him in that tux tonight. And he’s never been the guy to show off, even though the work he’s put into his vintage Mustang could make Henry Ford himself envious. But when it comes to cooking, he should receive an award. His pulled pork is a staple at our summer block parties and his homemade barbeque sauce has remained our neighbourhood’s best-kept secret. But the most satisfying part about his delicious dishes is that there’s always plenty to go around. And Rob makes sure your plate is never empty. I have no idea how he pulls it off, but Rob has a covert ability to scoop seconds onto your plate without you ever seeing him do it. I hope you all came hungry tonight, folks. You’ve been warned! The first time I met Jasmine I could immediately tell she was an amazing person. She laughed at his jokes, which I never thought anyone would get. She supported his career and the nonstop travel involved. But most importantly, whenever we’re all hanging out, Jasmine is the one always topping off Rob’s plate with more pasta, more chicken, more of everything. When she’s around, it’s never empty. And that’s when I saw what a perfect match they were for each other. I know they will always put each other first, make sure their needs are met, and will never allow the other to go hungry. So let’s raise our glasses to toast the newlyweds! As you begin this next chapter together, may your plates and your hearts always remain full.”
Source: Brides
What Makes it Memorable:
- Playful, light teasing that still feels respectful
- Personality-driven (and food-based!) storytelling
- A smooth segue into admiration for the couple
Ready to Plan Your Dream Wedding Reception?
The truth is, guests might forget what was on the dinner menu or which song played during the first dance—but they’ll remember how they felt during your speech. Your toast is a gift. A few minutes that make the couple feel seen, celebrated, and loved. And when it’s delivered in a place as timeless and romantic as Winona Vine Estates, that memory becomes even more meaningful. Whether you're planning your own wedding or helping someone special celebrate theirs, Winona Vine Estates offers a picture-perfect setting for heartfelt moments, unforgettable speeches, and lifelong memories. Explore our wedding services or request a quote to learn more about planning your celebration with us at the beautiful Winona Vine Estates in Stoney Creek. Your love story deserves the perfect setting—and we’d be honoured to help you bring it to life.